ކޮންމެ ކަމެއް ވެސް ވާނީ ﷲ އިރާދަކުރެއްވީމަ!

CLICK HERE  to watch a short Islamic video! 

What do you think of what he said on that video? He said that there are guys who act like girls, guys who talk in girl voices, girls who act like guys and girls who talk in guy voices in the Maldives, and that it’s forbidden for them to do that, in Islam.

I know that there are many boys who have a girl voice before puberty, but are there guys who have a girl voice even after puberty? The answer is yes, there are many. Is it forbidden for them to have a girl voice? Is it wrong? If it’s forbidden in Islam, why did God give them that voice? God makes no mistakes, because He is perfect. Humans are imperfect.

There are men who are just naturally girly and women who are naturally boyish. Some of those guys have a female voice and some of those girls have a male voice. Is it still forbidden  for them to act like that and talk like that, even though they never had a choice to do it or not? NO! It’s not forbidden. Whenever a Sheikh or an Islamic teacher says something about Islam, a lot of Muslims just listen to it and conclude that what the person saying that is telling the truth, but does the listener wonder, “what if they are wrong?”

Be more open. Anyone can be wrong. Even the smartest person in the whole world can be wrong. Don’t just listen to others and conclude that what they are saying is true. Find out the answer yourself.

Why is it not forbidden? The answer is, because they don’t do it on purpose. It’s how they are. That’s how God made them. Whether they developed the personalities of the opposite gender or not, it was God’s will. “Konme kameh ves vanee Allah iraadha kureh veema”. It was Allah’s will to make those men, effeminate. It was Allah’s will to make those women, masculine. It was Allah’s will to give those men a female voice. It was Allah’s will to give those women a male voice.

Do you remember yourself choosing to have a particular voice? Do you remember yourself choosing to have a particular personality? At one point of your life, you might have chosen to “change” your personality, but was your “first” and “real” personality, a personality which you chose yourself? And after you changed your personality, did you go from “feminine to masculine” or from “masculine to feminine”? I don’t think so. There are things which you can and can’t choose. Before saying that someone else chose this or that, ask yourself if you chose it. If the answer is no, then the person you were referring to didn’t choose it either.

Now, is there anything wrong with a man having a female voice or acting like a woman? Is there anything wrong with a woman having a male voice and acting like a man? NO! It was God’s will for this to happen. I’m sure that your voice is not something which is developed, because of your environment. It’s God who did it. God gave you a voice. It’s God’s will. Effeminacy in men and masculinity in women could have been something which was developed, because of the environment, but don’t you think God made it develop? Allah iraadha kureh veema konme kameh ves vaanee.

Some people don’t believe it when the effeminate man says that they aren’t acting girlie on purpose. It’s like that person knows about what the effeminate person chooses and doesn’t choose, a lot more than the effeminate person himself knows what he chooses and doesn’t choose, but that is NOT right, because that’s like a teacher telling you that you kept your book at home on purpose, even when in reality, you forgot to bring it. It’s like the teacher knows more than about the student, and the student knows what he does and doesn’t do.

Whether they developed it or not, if they don’t do it on purpose, it is NOT forbidden.

Don’t assume things. Don’t assume that someone did this or thought like that, because you won’t know the real answer. That person himself will know the real answer. 

ނާޑުންނަކީ ވެސް އިންސާނުން! (about nerds)

Let’s talk about nerds, shall we? Why do you think people hate nerds? Is it because they wear glasses? Is it because they’re extremely smart? Is it because of their taste in fashion? In my opinion, nerds are quite lucky, because they love studying, get high grades and also can easily succeed by just doing what they like to do.

What’s wrong with nerds? I’ve tried to come up with a good answer for it, but I couldn’t. There was no reason to hate them or make fun of them. They’re extremely smart and good at studies, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

They are humans, and they have feelings too. 

އަންހެންދުޅަ ފިރިހެނުންނާއި، ފިރިހެންދުޅަ އަންހެނުންނަކީ ވެސް އިންސާނުން!

Last year, I remember one of my teachers saying, “Emeehun ulheynee varah randu koh. Emeehun ulheynee “aai dhen theena dho”.. ehen vefa”. Well, unfortunately, I didn’t hear what he said before that, but I did find out later. One of my classmates, let’s call him “Chuck”. He was calling this other friend of mine (Nate), gay and then Chuck said, “kurin dhuvahu ves sir bunyehnu ekahala meehunney randu vaanee”.

Well, that’s when I knew what the teacher really said. He was talking about how all effeminate people (randu firihenun) are gay. I’d say that’s really offensive. I wonder how Nate felt, when the teacher said that. It must have felt terrible. We’re talking about a teacher talking shit about stuff that he doesn’t know about.

Some people believe that effeminate (randu) people are gay, and a lot of people do call them gay, but this is not completely true. Not all effeminate people are gay, and not all effeminate people are straight, either. Almost whenever a person sees an effeminate guy, they conclude that he’s gay while I continue wondering why. Why do people say that all effeminate people are gay? Could it be the media brainwashing people again? Could be. There’s no evidence to whether effeminate people are gay or not, so they are not to be judged as gay. There COULD be SOME effeminate gay people, but not all of them are gay.

Some people think that they are acting like that on purpose, but that is not true. They don’t even realize it. I asked Nate some questions about being effeminate, and he said that he never even knew that he was girly, until people started calling him “randu”, and he said that he don’t know how to control it, since he doesn’t even know when he does girly stuff.

I guess it’s just natural that some people are like that. He doesn’t even know when he does girly things. He doesn’t even notice it. Have you ever been in a situation where a person tells another person “you walk like this”, and that person shows a demo of it, and everyone agrees that it’s true, and you do too?

For example, there’s a guy who walks in some weird way, but he doesn’t know it. Everyone else does, and people tell him that he walks weird, but he doesn’t know what the hell they are talking about. Effeminacy is kind of like that too, except for the fact that effeminacy doesn’t include only “one” act. It includes many.

Let’s compare an effeminate man and a man who walks “weird”. When people start saying that the person walks weird, the person tries to walk normally, and that’s really hard, but possible. Yes, getting rid of a “part” of your effeminate side is also possible, but I doubt that it’s possible to completely get rid of it. I’ve analyzed some stuff about this effeminate friend of mine, which made me believe that it’s not possible to completely get rid of it. There was this other friend of mine who helped him to get rid of his girly side, and yes it did “kind of” work, but it didn’t completely change him. He still liked the same stuff that other girls usually liked, and he still kind of acted like a girl.

But the real question here is whether they should change or not. I’d say that it’s their own choice whether they should change it or not. Different people have different reasons to do what they have planned to do. I think it’s always best to stop the hater, instead of stopping the victim. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being effeminate. Just because you’re effeminate, doesn’t mean that you’re gay. It just means that you’re just another human who happens to be different. There are different people in this world and some of us are just more different than others.  I don’t know whether they are born like that or not, but either way, they must not be hated, discriminated or judged for being effeminate. It’s part of who they are. It doesn’t cause any harm to anyone. They are humans too. They have feelings. They should be treated nicely too, as long as they don’t hurt you on purpose.

Some people say that it’s a choice to be effeminate, and that is absolutely wrong. Ask an effeminate person yourself (not offensively, but nicely) and he might give an answer. He might even say, “I’m not girly!” and that’s only because he doesn’t know that he’s girly, but the people around him knows the truth. If he chose to be effeminate, he would know that he’s effeminate, but he doesn’t, unless people tell them that they’re effeminate.

Be kind to one another. We all have feelings. Before you judge, always find out why the person you judge, does those stuff which you seem to dislike, and after you find the answer to that question, think to yourself, why you judge that person, and try to understand, and even if you couldn’t understand, it doesn’t mean that you have to discriminate them. As long as they do no harm to you, you must not attempt any sort of discrimination.  

WE ARE ALL HUMANS! WE ALL HAVE FEELINGS! 

P.S. The same thing goes for boyish-girls (masculine girls) too.

ނަސްލީ ތަފާތުކުރުން(ރޭސިޒަމް) ހުއްޓުމަކަށް ގެނޭ!

Have you ever doubted the deepest things in your life? Have you ever wondered whether you’re going to the same direction or not? Did you ever think that your brain might be fooling you? Ever wondered why you never got a response from God? Ever wondered why Neil Patrick Harris married and man, and adopted two daughters? Ever wondered whether the stuff that you learn from your Islamic Studies teacher could be wrong? You will definitely agree with me, if I said that this world is fucked up, but did you ever realize that you’re among those people who fuck the world up?

When a Bangladeshi man doesn’t understand what you’re saying, what comes to you mind? “Mi hurihaa bangaalhinnakee bodu moyain”, am I wrong? No. I’m not. I’m sure that almost every Maldivian has insulted a Bangladeshi person at least once in life, and yes it is very wrong.

Feel for others. What would you feel if you were in their shoes? I call this racism. A lot of Maldivians hate Bangladeshi people just because they’re from Bangladesh, well what if you were a Bangladeshi person? You won’t completely understand the things Maldivians say. Imagine that you’ve never went to a class to study English or Hindi, because you couldn’t afford it, and you had to move to India to get money. You won’t know anything they say. The same thing happens to Bangladeshis who are living in The Maldives. When they first come to this country, they don’t know anything we say. They learn everything from the environment. How would you feel, if Indians made fun of you, just because you couldn’t completely understand what they were saying? You would feel terrible, right? But what could have you done? You couldn’t afford language classes. You had no choice, and neither did the Bangladeshi people living in The Maldives.

This is about feeling what others feel, being in their shoes. Before you do/say something, think about what you would feel, if someone did/said the same thing to you. What if you moved to some country, and there were some people talking shit about you just because you’re a Maldivian? It will feel terrible. So, stop judging Bangladesh people. THEY ARE HUMANS WITH FEELINGS TOO!!